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HER MONSTER OF A HUSBAND THINGS monster of a husband Things a happy ending to this story thoughYelena from Russia struggles to be recognized as a legal Ghanian wife and win the approval of her already married husband s family Abandoned during pregnancy by her husband Yelena runs her own salon in Ghana and fights for her marital rights every day on foreign soil The showdown between Yelena and her husband s first wife is uncomfortable to read but you can help but feel for both women they have been wronged by the same manMargrit appears to have the ideal life living in uiet satisfaction with her husband and
dog until one day he is snatched away by Ghanian terrorists until one day he is snatched away by Ghanian terrorists her house is destroyedMills has penned such a delightful study of human emotions and behavior under stress about women rallying together to help each other in times of distress about pulling each other up when they re ready to collapse Beautiful having recently read Ghana Must Go The Association of Foreign Spouses a book based in Ghana transported me right back to this country which holds a special place in my heart Reading it was like reliving my years there without the themes of domestic abuse and isolation but with memories about the awkwardness of being a foreignerMarilyn Mills has crafted a story about the lives of four friends all foreign all brought to Ghana by following the men in their lives and all carving out their lives as friends and sisters in arms in a country that reminds them everyday of their foreignnessThe characters in the book could have been any of the women I met during my time in Ghana from varying walks of life with varying nationalities and of different socio economic backgroundsThere is Eve an English woman married to Alfred and raising her three children whilst managing a comfortable if not close relationship with her mother in law Dahlia a Jamaican born English who uit her law studies married for love and moved to Ghana only to spent most her married life as a battered woman Yelena who is Russian is a single mother of twin boys running a hair salon in Ghana and determined to have her boys acknowledged by their father and his family despite him already being married to someone else Margrit German is the
ONLY ONE OF THE FOUR WHOone of the four who a stable marriage but who like the other three wears her foreignness like armourI enjoyed Mills s book her descriptions of Ghana and it s oppressive heat its dry harmattan season its tropical rains the smells cacophony of sounds the friendly people and their idiosyncrasies However I felt that all four of her characters deliberately isolated themselves in their foreignness Despite the years all of them had spent in Ghana they all appear to present themselves as foreign in a foreign country and not as women married to Ghanaians raising Ghanaian children and immersed in the culture There is a sense of them whingeing about how things don t work in Ghana or the ineptness or indifference of Ghanaians to effect change in their countryThis was probably what made the book real for me for I have encountered the same type of people the disillusioned expats uick to point out how well things work in their country of origin expecting the country to change around them and them not change in order to acclimatiseMills balances the historical drama of Ghana in the 1980s the political instability the disappointment of the older generation in post colonial Ghana expressed through Eve s mother in law who had lived lived through British rule. Red had made it sound heavenly but the hardship drained her of vitality and the foreign culture bew. Enjoyed the descriptions of Ghanaian daily life and communities but cringed at the racism naivety of the white characters throughout Found them all unlikeable and lacked depth Too many inaccuracies in the book eg Alfred becomes furious when his wife calls him silly and insists it s something that must
*never be used in ghanaian culture then shortly *be used in Ghanaian culture then shortly calls his daughter silly Spoiler alert but would Vincent really allow his wife to leave the country with his daughter An easy read but feel it needs a good edit and for the author to reassess how Ghana and its people are depicted I really wanted to like this book because I felt I d empathise with the foreign spouses OK so I wasn t married to a local but I did live in Africa I enjoyed the early pages where the descriptions struck a chord It s obvious she nows the country well and throughout the book she does a good job of describing the place the culture the politics etc But the story takes far too long to get goingAccording to the jacket blurb the plot is about these women s lives being thrown into chaos by a coup but the coup doesn t happen until page 120 The preceding 119 pages simply introduce us to the women and give us their backstories in tedious detail Even after the coup happens it s all fairly slow moving and by that time I simply couldn t care enough about these women to worry much about what happened to them Another thing which I found slightly annoying but only slightly was the unusual language I don t now if it s the author s background or if she was deliberately trying to be original but I was often pulled up short by an unusual use of words because I had to work out what she meant
she leaned over the balcony and puffed out It wouldn t haveleaned over the balcony and puffed out It wouldn t have me if she d been telling the story from the point of view of a Ghanaian every country uses English a bit differently but these women were English German and Russian If you ve lived in West Africa as an expat you will probably enjoy this book than others However for those of you that haven t it is still a nice read if you need something to read that isn t too heavy but also isn t so ditsy From the "perspective of a woman getting married and moving into her husband s home adopting her husband "of a woman getting married and moving into her husband s home adopting her husband family and living away from her own parents is tough in itself When the marriage brings together diverse cultures it becomes doubly difficult for her to adjust to the alien environment while preventing misunderstandings and avoiding giving offence That s just what happens when the very British Eva marries the solid Ghanian Alfred charmed by his stories of his motherland When she actually steps into her new home reality hits hardIt doesn t help that she has many differences of opinion with her mother in law who does not approve of her British daughter in law and finds her distant rude and strange Things become worse when Alfred has a protracted affair which results in a child uite understandably Eva is not willing to have any of it and fails to understand why her mother in law is preaching tolerance Eva s mother in law is preoccupied with thoughts of eeping the family together even if it isn t exactly her notion of the ideal familyOn the other hand Eva s friends who also hail from foreign countries and have married into Ghana are fighting battles of their own Dahlia has endured years of domestic violence while eeping up a brave smiling front in public It is thrilling to read how the women get together to plot her escape and heartbreaking to see. Marriage to a handsome Ghanaian architect has brought Eva far from the uiet English countryside Alf.
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Continually Changing Regimes It Giveschanging regimes It gives insight into what Ghana must have been like in those early years of its independenceI am curious about Mills s first book Cloth Girl which garnered better reviews I heard about this book not long after I read Heward Mills first novel Cloth Girl though it took longer than expected to be actually published I was very intrigued by the title as there is a real organisation
Here In Ghana Calledin Ghana called Spouses Association of Ghana and like the group in Heward Mills novel it is made up of non Ghanaians married to Ghanaians So I guess I did wonder whether someall of the characters were based on real people Certainly the political and economic situation does ring partly true as I can personally attest having lived in Ghana s second city during the 1980s Overall I found this second novel not as interesting as the first one but it was still enjoyable Ghana provides a vivid if sometimes chaotic setting for this second novel by Marilyn Heward Mills The main characters are four women who are transplanted from Europe Three are married and two are raising children The fourth has children but isn t married and fights an ongoing battle with the children s fatherThe women view themselves as living in an alien society To some extent and based on the difference in their lifestyles they are outcasts and so they form a bond of friendship They support and cheer each other on during difficult times and are family than friends Among their challenges are episodes of infidelity I found this book uite dull and hard to finish And I get annoyed when there are continuity errors in books where are the proof readers page 109 Dahlia apologies to Eva for ruining Joseph s day In fact this was Eva s anniversary party and the mother in law had later on organised a surprise baptism for Joseph which Eva and Dahlia both new nothing about Small error I How Debuggers Work Algorithms Data Structures and Architecture know but things like this really bug me I totally agree with one of the reviews that if you are an expat who lives somewhere in West Africa then you will find it familiar intriguing and enjoyable I live in Lagos Nigeria and I found this book totally fascinating as there is also an association of foriegn women Nigerwives And all the things the authors writes about happens also in Nigeria The whole point of foreign wives getting together is that there are cases of domestic violence etc and as we do not have families here well we have to rely and depend on each other As for the book being full of stereotypes I disagree Whether we like it or not when we get together over a bottle of wine and some chin chin we complain bitterly about the African and their ways We go on and on about how NigeriaGhana really has not done well since independence and when we have finished the bottles of wine we state how things would be better if the colonialists were to come backSPOILERThe book ends with the women still remaining in Ghana inspite of their unhappiness which to me is bit of a cop out as the real truth is if we were to go back most of us would have to ueue up for a council flat and on top of that there would be no domestic to serve us our daily Earl Grey Tea I enjoyed this one to begin with getting tonow the characters and identifying with them as foreign wives However now I m a bit bored and have gotten distracted with a Jennifer Worth book I m not sure if I will persuade myself to go back to it171112 I ve returned it to the library. Ildered her But Eva has her friends Dahlia Yelena and Margrit all of them strangers in a foreign la.